DISCERN LOVE

Love lives. It is in the acts not the words. It is in the thoughts which lead to kindness and consideration. It is living.

Love never ends. In tough times of breathless confusion it is love which drives and hopes. It is love which allows the feelings of optimism resurface and take power. It is endless.

‘Of course with my prince charming I will but naturally live happily. And life’s forces will rock and roll to the beat of my drum.’ This comes across encouragingly like love. However this is not love. This is expectation.

Love is a secure & balanced feeling of well being. Love is unwavering and does not rock and roll to life’s twists and turns.

It does not change with circumstances. It wants nothing in return. It does not fear losing itself for another. It has no prospect for self. Love always wins for its joy lies in the triumph of others. It is joyful.

Peaceful, creative, forgiving, kind and compassionate are the eyes of love. It seeks the happiness of another and in that alone lays its happiness. It is ever evolving.

Unconditional is love. No reasoning or barter takes place in love. It gives for the sole rationale of giving. It is generous.

Loves lives the judgment of optimism. It speaks words of caution. And prayers for the safety and well being of the reckless loved one. It embraces the stumbling one. It is breathing conviction.

Haste plays no role. Patience is its face. It embraces the outcome for the good of the loved one with open arms. Hope in life is love.

Its love when you go with your instinct and don’t give up on yourself or a child and refuse to listen to the voices which are contrary to what you feel. Faith in oneself is love.

No two people can love exactly alike. No two people are alike and each can love only as uniquely as the person is. To compare and contrast is a ravage of time.

Faith, hope and charity have no flame without love.

Use your time well.

Live LOVE!

Love always

Joscelyn

Tryst with Paranoid Thinking

Fearful is the mind of outcomes and end results so it struggles to find ways to control and stop the unstoppable.

Faith is no visitor in this environment. Hope has fled to another time and age.

You are standing as if on the edge of a cliff set on a bowl of jelly.

Imaginations are as fluid as real. A hazy feeling like smoke blurs every thought of calm.

Surrounding everything is a tight, unhappy & destitute goal.

The goal being I have to DO something. DO IT MY WAY and try and

keep trying to make it all well! I claim this is not unreasonable. I say

I know best. It’s my life I should know. Isn’t it?

Defenses up. Every thought goes back to that thought. What if?

Doom looms large? Despair is so friendly.

Arrogance stems from the likes of this kind of thought control. This was news to me. How can arrogance cause the hot ball escalating downhill to my ruin? When everything that I am trying to do is to stall that very situation of devastation?

How?

Mistrustful is the heart as I listen to the logic which seemed unreal and anger takes over.Not possible says a voice it is mine.

How can I not do anything to make things better?

How can I be expected to not scold, contrive & connive? It’s my life after all?

Suspicious of every intention

Obsessed with finding answers

I lumber on.......

Bad-tempered are the demands on one self and the other. This leads to more despair.

Then I stopped to pay attention to the logic of the Serenity prayer

God, grant us the...

Serenity to accept things we cannot change,

Courage to change the things we can, and the

Wisdom to know the difference

Patience for the things that take time

Appreciation for all that we have, and

Tolerance for those with different struggles

Freedom to live beyond the limitations of our past ways, the

Ability to feel your love for us and our love for each other and the

Strength to get up and try again even when we feel it is hopeless.

A strange calm descends as surrender no longer means giving up hope. Rather it’s a method to think things from a different perspective. It is a road where human dignity is restored.

Pride rides out into the sunset. Saddle bags full of the past misconceptions.

Never to reign in this mind again.

Promise made. Promise kept.

Love always

Joscelyn

MY LIST OF AWESOME THINGS

I am amazed by

The flow of paint from a brush

Pen strokes of a calligrapher

The art of writing the Chinese characters

The mercurial run on Arabic script

The learning capability of children

The colours of an evening winter’s sky

I am thrilled by

The sound of raindrops on a rooftop

The streams of water flowing of corrugated sheets

A child’s writing and drawings

The success of others

An understanding heart

A twinkle in the eye

I am moved by

The reality of love

An outstretched hand stops your stumble.

Consideration of a stranger

Broad reconciliation bridges

The spirit of cheerful staying power

Doing to the best of one’s ability

It makes my day! What makes yours?

Love always

Joscelyn

IMAGINE

Small hands wipe tears of the face of another little one

Tiny hands clap for everything

A smiling senior citizen

Honest advice no hidden agenda

A warm hug

Opponents shake hands

A helpful hand extended and received as such

A fistful of earth in a concrete jungle

A look of love in the most ordinary moment

Excitement of a win

Tears of a loser

Laughter of a tramp

Satisfaction of a job well done

Credits acknowledged

A smile through tears

Confidence revisited

Trembling chin soothed

Withdrawn expectation

Peace in thoughts

Promise fulfilled

Compassion in speech

Comfort in words

Pardon in the final analysis

Imagine a life without these moments!

I don’t want my life to be without these moments.

Do you? Can you?

Love always

Joscelyn

TEN TOP OPPORTUNITIES TO LIVE AND LEARN

1. Let you heart rule your head. The turmoil which ensues will spin your life turtle. Let it! Then find your head on your shoulders thereafter each time and every time.

2. Let a blunder rake and rile you for a chosen period of time [limited], feel the harm it does and then forgive yourself and go on to honor your better self.

3. Let the fear of being disliked hamper and stunt the quality of thought, word and deed. Then pack up fear with no ceremony and start to think, speak and do freely as you believe.

4. Let the discomfort of confrontation hijack and gag the need to know the truth then pluck the courage and face the fiends. Vapour is the natures of demons, a wave of intend is all that is required to push forward.

5. Let persons belittle you for love and misplaced loyalty then silently move out of reach and make room for precious thoughts which uplift and guide actions of love.

6. Let people manipulate and distort facts in order that you act in response in a certain way then choose to be true to yourself and think for yourself.

7. Let the need to be loved lead to actions your instincts disagree with. Then feel the freedom of not having to try to be loved and know that to be loved is not earned its just there.

8. Let peoples opinion rule your choice, words and thoughts and then move on to become independent of validation of another. Listen to your inner voice, it leads and comforts like no other.

9. Let noise be your screen and defense and then visit the silence of your spirit, never to return to the din for here lays your integrity.

10. Let you treat yourself harshly. This is a hard one to see. Cause it’s too close for comfort. Sometimes a lifetime passes before you can see, believe and act in your interest. Don’t let that be the case with you. Treating yourself with love, care and respect is the key to doing the same for others.

Love always,

Joscelyn

HORNS & HALOS

Dolly Parton the well known country song writer and singer had a
smash hit concert named ‘All is well’ long ago. [Just saw it again for
the umpteen time on DVD]

And now ‘All izz well’ is made famous here in India by Aamir Khans ‘3
Idiots.’

Well done, to both enterprises.
All is well.
It’s just a state of mind. Peace.

When you believe that everything that has happened, is happening and
will happen is for your good alone. Believe me with this belief reality
just falls into line. It has no choice because your state of mind creates
your reality. Simple!

Dolly’s songs identify with real human emotions and feelings thus
making it so expressive and easily identifiable. It tells me that these
feelings are experienced commonly the world over.

How else would songs be written on something one thinks is personal and singly confidential and related to only them? It’s because it’s not as one of a kind but more frequent and relative than one can imagine.

So don’t allow the finger pointers to make you feel isolated and alone.
“Sometimes we wear halos and sometimes we wear horns” sings Dolly!
Then, we make a choice to exchange our horns for halos.

So carry that burden no more. No dent is permanent unless you want it to be.The circumstances and choices that build lives cannot be judged by anyone.

So all you lovely people out there do not paralyze your
thoughts with the ray gun of hurt and traumatic disbelief but go on
your way. You have everything you need to be and do a marvelous job
with the rest of your life.

Journey forward to a better life make it happen only as you can.
Everyone has a saving quality.
Find it and make it your position.

Stagnation is and never has been my strong point. No matter how
deeply I feel or am affected, eventually I get fed up of the sorrow and
move forward. Then each day becomes the day I am up in arms.
With a vow to put my best foot forward.

I write what I learned.

So kindness can spare the horror finale. I took the turn and there was
no boogie man there just a welcoming peace and comfort.

I am free. You are too!

Choose Life!

Love always,
Joscelyn

When it is time, it will be time enough.

Entertaining NO THOUGHTS of distress and worry

leaves one with a lot of undiluted energy and time.

It’s extraordinary to think many have lived lives such

as this quite naturally.

But for me, I have painstakingly tried and practiced

over years. With a heaping of small and big victories I

now have accomplished it in the 54th year of my life.

I should say here every experience has contributed to

my being. I acknowledge my good and sensible choices

and my imprudent and resentful ones too. I take full

responsibility for my thoughts, words and actions.

I may not agree but I appreciate those who disagree

with me. This is the toughest and the most liberating

clause I have worked to my peace of mind.

I chanced upon something I had written 14 years ago. I

was pleasantly surprised to see that how I am now is

exactly how I wanted to and planned to be that many

years ago. I never looked at myself as such a

passionate, meticulous and focused planner.

But I am.

I never admired myself for my persistence. Over the

years and decades ago I was told by many a coworker

and management of my focus and confidence to get the

task done with finesse.

But I saw it only as confidence of doing my best, just as

doing the needful and going the extra mile for myself

alone.

At the on start itself I could see the end result the way I

wanted it to be.

Once that grip was in place the routes to accomplishing

it were taken on a need basis and never compromised

on, in terms of quality and time investment.

My satisfaction at the end was the reward I sought. I’d

smile to myself in the dark as I lay my head on the

pillow. Well done! I told myself, enthused and raring

to go on to the next day and the next project.

I see myself now as successful at being ME. My heart

agrees. A floating feeling of peace surrounds as I write

this.

I forgive myself for all the trouble wittingly and

unwittingly I caused myself. As I write this my heart

flutters. That’s how alive my conscience is today.

Maybe I have yet to make peace with some things. But

I am on the path I will get there. At last I respect and

love myself as my God intended.

I am reunited with my inner self. I do things, the

things which need to be done for myself. An

expectation in perspective is a gift of fortitude.

Every human has borne pain.

The question is how does pain motivate you? Is it, to

tears, anger, revenge and then uneasy justification in

that order?

Yes, it does we are human after all.

Then after we make the choice of the course of action

the hard work starts. It’s a journey and the reward is

in this alone. I try consistently to walk this talk, I find

it worthwhile.

Try it!

Love always,

Joscelyn